On Thu, 31 May 2001, Christopher Rhoades Dÿkema wrote:
> > > Imagine marrying the first person you had sex with. What a riot that
> > > would be . . .
> >
> > Freud makes a lot more sense when you realize he was describing a world
> > just like that. Acting out your feelings towards your parents big time.
> > And then stuck in that rut forever.
> >
> Actually young bourgeois men had sex with women of other classes before
> marriage to women of their own class who were sexually inexperienced.
Sex, yes. But relationships, mainly no, precisely because of the class factor you mentioned. And that's key for the acting out part. It was in fact a common affliction among Freud's male patients that they could make it fine with a prostitute or serving girl, but respectable women reminded them of their mothers. So as far as the psycho-drama was concerned, the boys were mostly still virgins too when they got married. And still mostly completely ignorant where it counted.
Michael
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