This works out to be a backlash against feminism, though they would probably deny it, and a strong position in favor of individual/familial responsibility as a response to what really are stresses arising out of living in the society we inhabit.
Christopher Rhoades Dÿkema
Doug Henwood wrote:
> Rob Schaap wrote:
>
> >Sounds for the most part (the finances bit is a bit dodgy) like a 'good
> >spouse', even a 'good friend', checklist. The quest for control is pretty
> >well inimical to all human relations, no? So, going on this list, I don't
> >think 'surrendered wife' is anything but a marketing ploy to feed on some
> >controversy. To the degree that these 'self-improvement' things have any
> >efficacy at all, this lot seems pretty harmless - mebbe even a useful
> >check-list against which to monitor one's own role in one's relationships
> >occasionally.
>
> This interpretation might have some validity if there were a
> countervailing call for the husband to surrender, but no, the book is
> all about flattering male vanity. One example: if your husband takes
> a wrong turn off the freeway (and it's assumed he does the driving,
> of course), don't say anything, even if you're about to cross the
> border of a neighboring state.
>
> Doug