Clearly there is nothing wrong in and of itself with picking and choosing which wars one approves of. Most people do that. I certainly do.
What I object to is the invocation of universal principles in opposition to particular wars. In particular, to criticize the U.S. interventions in the Balkans and Afghanistan because there are civilian casualties or "war crimes" is bogus unless you oppose *all* wars, since all result in civilian casualties and "war crimes." I put the latter in quotes because I would guess that violations of the rules of war (executing P.O.W.'s, for instance) are ubiquitous in war, though I would be happy to be corrected on that.
Objecting to the Afghani intervention on the grounds that it ratifies a U.S. intention to slaughter civilians wholesale is a different matter. Anyone making this argument is either uninformed or dedicated to insupportable polemic.
My impression is that most opposition to the U.S. intervention here and on PEN-L is founded on factors like: opposition to the use of violence, per se ("violence never solves anything"); rejection of any mission that creates innocent civilian casualties; and inferences of ancillary motives on the part of the U.S. (i.e., oil, hegemonism). My critical label "selective pacifism" refers to the invocation of these arguments *as if* they applied uniquely to the Afghani conflict, whereas in fact they apply to nearly all. The arguments fail my "Civil War Test." So if you invoke universal principles but have your own list, however short, of just wars, then you are a selective pacifist. As to personalities, I have gone no further then to say this bespeaks confusion. I haven't said anybody is vile.
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