A Jewish Family: Conflicting Sympathies

Yoshie Furuhashi furuhashi.1 at osu.edu
Sun Dec 1 13:18:35 PST 2002


The Columbus Dispatch December 1, 2002 Sunday, Home Final Edition SECTION: NEWS; Pg. 09A LENGTH: 719 words SERIES: WAR TORN IN COLUMBUS HEADLINE: A JEWISH FAMILY | CONFLICTING SYMPATHIES; DAUGHTER'S SUPPORT FOR PALESTINIANS TESTS THE FABRIC OF RABBI'S FAMILY BYLINE: Mary Mogan Edwards, THE COLUMBUS DISPATCH

Bush/Sharon, whaddya say, How many kids did you kill today? You can kill, you can lie, Palestine will never die!

Those who know Ora Wise only from the militant chant she led at a pro-Palestinian demonstration at Ohio State University in May might assume that the petite, intense, eyebrow-pierced daughter of a rabbi has utterly rejected her Jewish faith as well as her parents' love.

They would be wrong on both counts. Wise fervently denounces Israel's occupation of the Palestinian lands and questions the legitimacy of a Jewish state, but, to her, it's a way of freeing Judaism from what she sees as a grave moral fault.

"As I've been fighting for Palestinian liberation, it's also the work that I do for Jewish emancipation," she said. "Zionism and the state of Israel have been a boot on our (Jews') neck."

Reconciling her beliefs about Israel with her feelings for her family has been more complicated.

Wise's social activism comes as no surprise to her parents. Spending the first 13 years of her life on college campuses "surrounded her with engaging, thoughtful people," said her father, Rabbi Irvin Wise, who heads Adath Israel Congregation, a Conservative synagogue in Cincinnati.

"All three of our daughters are activists, on issues ranging from the death penalty to racism," he said.

Ora, 21, who left Ohio State last spring to go to New York, is the oldest. She attended her first march honoring Martin Luther King Jr. at age 4 and became a vegetarian at 13, all with her parents' enthusiastic support.

The passion she developed for the Palestinian cause while at OSU is a different matter.

"My parents have always supported my activism, but when it comes to this -- they can't come with me on this one," she said.

Her father agrees. "This happens to be one issue on which we have very different perspectives," he said.

It's not so different, he believes, from other sharp disagreements between parents and socially aware children.

"I had terrible arguments with my father over Vietnam," he recalled. "I was outrageous in some of the things I said to him."

He doesn't want to go into detail about the tumultuous months two years ago, when Ora's pro-Palestinian sympathies began to emerge.

"It was very hard, but we've managed to set it aside," he said. "We paid our dues over a couple of years to get where we are, to be able to work around it.

"We've said what we had to say, so why don't we talk about something else?"

Avoiding that elephant in the room takes effort.

On a recent vacation, family members relaxed together and shared favorite foods, but conversational paths had to be carefully plotted, Rabbi Wise said.

"We had to experiment and make changes in how we relate to each other. For me, it isn't easy to live with that dissonance. We live with knowing she feels this way about this issue."

The strain on his daughter may be even greater.

"I love them so much, and it tears me apart that there's this dark, heavy sadness between us," Ora said. "We have such a rich, rich Jewish life together, but I can't share about 90 percent of what I'm doing in my own life.

"And yet, I want them to be proud of me. I do."

She doesn't understand why her parents, who have so encouraged her social consciousness, don't see the issue as she sees it.

"I thought they taught me to change the world, to fight for social change, for social justice," she said. "They taught me to be vegetarian and to fight the death penalty. How can they support an occupation state?"

Rabbi Wise searches for commonality in their positions.

"The real issue is not advocating for Palestinian rights -- my wife and I would advocate that, and we work on behalf of those people as well. The real issue of division in the Jewish community is whether Israel has the right to exist as a Jewish state."

He believes it does but adds, "I don't think Ora and her friends are prepared to accept that."

Nonetheless, even as Palestinian bombers continue to rain death on Israeli citizens and Israeli troops continue an equally deadly show of force against Palestinians, Rabbi Wise was planning a visit to see Ora in New York, where she works with the New York Unemployment Project.

After all, he said, "I have intense difficulty with some of her positions, but the family is bigger than that." -- Yoshie

* Calendar of Events in Columbus: <http://www.osu.edu/students/sif/calendar.html> * Anti-War Activist Resources: <http://www.osu.edu/students/sif/activist.html> * Student International Forum: <http://www.osu.edu/students/sif/> * Committee for Justice in Palestine: <http://www.osu.edu/students/CJP/>



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