power

[Kelley]

At 10:49 AM 12/4/02 -0800, joanna bujes wrote:
>At 11:04 PM 12/03/2002 -0500, you wrote:
>>Love is a social relation and certainly also a power relation.
>>Of course love involves power. Always. In many forms. And between parents and
>>children, the whole idea of "responsibility" is certainly also about power.
>
>I don't see this. We may be mired in a conflation of "power to" vs "power 
>over," but it has always seemed to me that love relinquishes both power 
>and the desire for power. But I suppose this has to do with whether you 
>"love" someone only to the extent that they are a source of gratification 
>for you or wether you love someone and therefore wish them and help them 
>to be free.
>
>Joanna

In which case, you get a sense of gratification out of fulfilling your idea 
of what it means to be a mother, lover, friend, of what a mother, lover, 
and friend _should_ be.

Power: Money, force, and solidarity, baybay!

Kelley

Freedom from and freedom to