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<DIV><FONT color=#000080>if anyone was wondering how people like ayn rand,
shrub, chairman greenspan, richard nixon or henry kissinger, get that
way ....</FONT></DIV>
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<DIV style="FONT: 10pt arial">----- Original Message -----
<DIV style="BACKGROUND: #e4e4e4; font-color: black"><B>From:</B> <A
title=dhenwood@panix.com href="mailto:dhenwood@panix.com">Doug Henwood</A>
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<DIV><B>To:</B> <A title=lbo-talk@lists.panix.com
href="mailto:lbo-talk@lists.panix.com">lbo-talk</A> </DIV>
<DIV><B>Sent:</B> Friday, May 31, 2002 1:12 PM</DIV>
<DIV><B>Subject:</B> a list</DIV></DIV>
<DIV><BR></DIV>Apropos of nothing (well maybe the patriotism thread,
tangentially), <BR>except that I just came across a copy of this paper in my
files, this <BR>classic list of reasons why the mother hates her baby from D.W.
<BR>Winnicott's "Hate In The Counter-Transference" (International Journal <BR>of
Psycho-Analysis 30 [1949], part 2, pp. 69-74).<BR><BR>>The mother, however,
hates her infant from the word go. I believe <BR>>Freud thought it possible
that a mother may under certain <BR>>circumstances have only love for her boy
baby - but we may doubt <BR>>this. We know about a mother's love and we
appreciate its reality <BR>>and power. Let me give some of the reasons why a
mother hates her <BR>>baby, even a boy.<BR>><BR>>A. The baby is not her
own (mental) conception.<BR>><BR>>B. The baby is not the one of childhood
play, father's child, <BR>>brother's child, etc.<BR>><BR>>C. The baby
is not magically produced.<BR>><BR>>D. The baby is a danger to her body in
pregnancy and at birth.<BR>><BR>>E. The baby is an interference with her
private life, a challenge to <BR>>preoccupation.<BR>><BR>>F. To a
greater or lesser extent a mother feels that her own mother <BR>>demands a
baby, so that her baby is produced to placate her mother.<BR>><BR>>G. The
baby hurts her nipples even by suckling, which is at first a <BR>>chewing
activity.<BR>><BR>>H. He is ruthless, treats her as scum, an unpaid
servant, a slave.<BR>><BR>>I. She has to love him, excretions and all, at
any rate at the <BR>>beginning, till he has doubts. about
himself.<BR>><BR>>J. He tries to hurt her, periodically bites her, all in
love.<BR>><BR>>K. He shows disillusionment about her.<BR>><BR>>L.
His excited love is cupboard love, so that having got what he <BR>>wants be
throws her away like orange peel.<BR>><BR>>M. The baby at first must
dominate, be must be protected from <BR>>coincidences, life must unfold at
the baby's rate and all this needs <BR>>his mother's continuous and detailed
study. For instance, she must <BR>>not be anxious when holding him,
etc,<BR>><BR>>N. At first he does not know at all what she does or what
she <BR>>sacrifices for him. Especially he cannot allow for her
hate.<BR>><BR>>O. He is suspicious, refuses her good food, and makes her
doubt <BR>>herself, but eats well with his aunt.<BR>><BR>>P. After an
awful morning with him she goes out, and be smiles at a <BR>>stranger, who
says: 'Isn't he sweet!'<BR>><BR>>Q. If she fails him at the start she
knows he will pay her out for ever.<BR>><BR>>R. He excites her but
frustrates - she mustn't eat him or trade in <BR>>sex with
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