I understand the reference group thing - after all, I have a PhD is sociology. What I do not understand is the intensity and prevalence of hatred and bigotry in this country.
For the past few years I spent some time in Africa, inlcuding South Africa, with the terrible hisotry of racism. I just cannot imagine what the Blacks must have felt seeing the suburban "garden of Edens" around, say, Jo'burg in which the whites lived. It must have been their "reference group" at lest for some. What I find surprising was the level of civility with witch South Africans talked about their country and apertheid. The closest thing to vengence I encountered was the resentment shown by a cab driver in Cape Town when he explained verious vestiges of seggregation 9e'g separet walkways to the RR station). Why they can South Africans be so civil, even given their history, and people in this country cannot?
Wojtek