So, my teacher was dancing, and her partner was drumming and there developed between the two of them a sort of dialog of dance and rhythm, each egging the other one, each challenging the other. So far this is all normal belly dance stuff -- a good dancer needs to be present and totally responsive to the drummer who is at liberty to improvise, change tempos -- to challenge and support the dancer. In this case the dialog invoved a dancer and a musician, two women, and two lovers. There were points at which the whole experience -- including the erotic charge evolving between these two -- became simply ecstatic. And thinking about this months later, relative to this husband/wife thing, I realized I couldn't even begin to fit any kinds of labels to it. At first sight, the drummer appears to be the man -- relative to the feminine dancer. And yet, the point of drumming is to support, to create a context for the dancer. The dancer herself, was very far from the passive/retiring woman. She is, in fact, a very strong dancer; you look at her move and you become aware of a sensuality of steel, of a bent bow. Moreover, when she dances, she concentrates the entire focus of the room on her body and motion. There's no mistaking this for a lap dance. In their private lives too, they fall wide of stereotypes. The "drummer" is the peacemaker, supporter, mechanic, socially aware, and super sensitive one. The dancer is more the self-absorbed, driven, star -- the aggressive one -- the one who has no time to worry about feelings.
So, traditional gender roles are always available, but they're not necessarily taken up by hetero couples or same-sex couples...
For LOBsters in the bay area, check out Amira's Sunday night....or any night for that matter. It's a nice scene.
http://www.amiraistanbul.com/musicDance.html
Joanna