Who does he have to be? I am thoroughly disgusted and tired with the idea that in order to "tell" someone something, you have to be of a particular gender, race, age, etc. We have a shared humanity or we don't. That's the first thing to decide. If the answer is that we don't have a shared humanity, then just fucking blow your brains out, cause that's the happiest ending you're going to get.
Moreover, he's not telling anything: He "doubts" that women feel nothing but relief after an abortion. That's as hesitant an assertion as could be made. I doubt that a woman feels nothing but relief too. But if that's what she feels, fine. I took up this whole thread not to criticize what anyone feels but to counsel against trumpeting certain feelings as a political posture 1) because it would not attract many women and 2) because it would strengthen abortion opponents.
Otherwise, I do agree with the rest of what you said.
Joanna