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<div align="left"><font face="Arial"><span style="font-size:10pt">On 14 Mar 2005 at 20:51, lbo@inkworkswell.com wrote:</span></font></div>
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<div align="left"><font face="Arial" color="#7f0000"><span style="font-size:10pt">> Relationship experts say professional men prefer to marry women "like their </span></font></div>
<div align="left"><font face="Arial" color="#7f0000"><span style="font-size:10pt">> mum" who will provide the domestic support while they go out to work.</span></font></div>
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<div align="left"><font face="Arial" color="#7f0000"><span style="font-size:10pt">> Women achievers, however, find it difficult to find men willing to </span></font></div>
<div align="left"><font face="Arial" color="#7f0000"><span style="font-size:10pt">> sacrifice their careers to become house husbands.</span></font></div>
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<div align="left"><font face="Arial"><span style="font-size:10pt">This seems to be saying that one person in the relationship should be willing to make
maintaining the relationship their highest priority while the other is free to pursue other goals
and let the burden of sustaining the relationship fall on that other in order to increase the odds
that the partnership will be successful. If both partners pursue goals outside the relationship
equally the relationship is less likely to be maintained. It suggests women are having a harder
time finding men willing to do this.</span></font></div>
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<div align="left"><font face="Arial" color="#7f0000"><span style="font-size:10pt">> Dr Paul Brown, visiting professor of psychology at Nottingham Law School </span></font></div>
<div align="left"><font face="Arial" color="#7f0000"><span style="font-size:10pt">> and an expert on relationships, said: "What we are finding is that women in </span></font></div>
<div align="left"><font face="Arial" color="#7f0000"><span style="font-size:10pt">> their late 30s who have gone for careers after the first flush of </span></font></div>
<div align="left"><font face="Arial" color="#7f0000"><span style="font-size:10pt">> university and who are among the brightest of their generation are finding </span></font></div>
<div align="left"><font face="Arial" color="#7f0000"><span style="font-size:10pt">> that men are just not interesting enough.</span></font></div>
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<div align="left"><font face="Arial"><span style="font-size:10pt">This seems to me to suggest that finding men willing to make relationship maintenance their
highest priority is not the difficult part after all but rather that women are unhappy with men who
are willing to fulfill that role. This suggests women desire what is highly unlikely to succeed; a
motivated male achiever who will subsume his desire to succeed ourside the relationship in
order to maintain that relationship but that men prefer what is significantly more likely to
succeed; to pursue their careers and let the other partner be primarily responsible for
relationship maintenance and so choose their mate accordingly.</span></font></div>
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<div align="left"><font face="Arial"><span style="font-size:10pt">This suggests that the strategy of house-wife will be met with success more often than the
strategy of house-husband. This should also make the strategy of house-husband increasing
unlikely for men to choose. Am I reading this correctly or am I missing something important.</span></font></div>
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<div align="left"><font face="Arial"><span style="font-size:10pt">John Thornton</span></font></div>
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