>What's worse, in short,
>if you want to talk this way, betraying your wife or
>betraying your country?
You make it sound as if betraying your country is bad thing? Morally, it is plain that a man's country has no obvious right to expect his loyalty, whereas a spouse does. (Though it is not necessarily a good idea to *expect* it.) In fact, loyalty to one's country is obviously a very bad thing where one's country is in the wrong.
What's more, even the patriot would be well advised to answer that it is worse to betray his country wife than his country. If he knows what's good for him. He might very well think the former sounds like more fun, but it wouldn't pay to advertise the fact.
Bill Bartlett Bracknell Tas