Or a conversation I had a couple of weeks ago, where black co-workers were talking about going natural. They'd burn their hair trying to straighten and dry it all out trying to make the curls just the right kind of curl. All of that is not just to emulate "white" hair, but also to avoid the criticism, assumptions, derogatory remarks, etc. It's not just derogatory, it's about the racial and class hierarchy involved, where if you don't try to look white, then you look black and this is seen as "low class". "Project Chick" "project 'ho" "ghetto". These are insults, not just about race, but about supposed class status. And it's particularly acute around hair becuase, unlike skin, hair is seen as something you can "fix".
And it's not just blacks, but among whites as well. Whenever you want to represent a white person as "low class," especially a woman, just make her hair "big" or somehow tasteless.
Like my hot pink nail polish, doncha know. Coz I wear it on ALL my interviews. ;p
Point it, that we are particularly harsh about the things people can and should ostensibly change and aspire to: hair, clothing, etc. And if people dn't at least try to do that, they are seen as utter failures for not trying to at least appear as something other than low-class. One thing when you have skin color that can't be changed, quite another when you have hair that you let go 'natural' or, heaven forbid, dare choose outfits or nail polish or shoes or fill in the blank that supposedly indicate your failure as an upright member of the professional-middle class (or failure to want to BE a member).
Similar conversation when a co-worker was upset b/c someone assumed she was black. She was Puerto Rican, she said, and dumb white people just don't understand that Puerto Ricans have spanish and european heritage. You don't get so attached to that sort of thing -- the real or apparent distinction -- to mark yourself off from "blacks" and demonstrate some "white" (european) background simply because you want to emulate and be like others. You also want to avoid the insults and derogatory remarks that go with the supposed identity.
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