[lbo-talk] Taming Sex Again (was Re: Privelege)

[queer dewd formerly known as ( )]

At 02:18 AM 1/9/2007, Yoshie Furuhashi wrote:
>But people who take philosophical interest in BDSM (whether or not
>they actually practice it), as many LBO-talk subscribers appear to do,
>do so in large part because it is considered "transgressive."  For
>them, normalization might mean the diminution if not end of pleasure.
>After all, it's a head game.

You read minds now?

Like andie said, Yoshie, I'm a little too old to get interested in anything 
simply because it's transgressive. I take an interest because, my own 
experiences of sexual marginalization, which didn't feel transgressive but 
quite painful and lonely, mean that I care about others who have similar 
experiences. It means I have an open heart and mind and am curious about 
someone else's life. And if they want to explain it, I listen.

None of the folks I know claim sexual practices lead to liberation or are 
subverting dominant power structures. There have been countless blog wars 
in Feminist Bloglandia since there is a vocal minority of feminists out 
there who are convinced BDSM is a pure instance of patriarchal evil -- the 
model of male control of women. (There is a long convoluted explanation as 
to why the existence of male subs is not a refutation of that claim) During 
these wars, most people who are practitioners  want 1. people to leave them 
the hell alone and 2. want people to quit speaking from ignorance and 
making judgments on them -- including the judgment that they only enjoy it 
because they think its "transgressive".



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