Oh, and she was paid almost nothing. I was very, very happy to get her a job at Apple.
I did not run into any of this "entitlement" at UC Berkeley, University of Santa Clara (catholic), or SUNY Plattsburgh in the late eighties. But it was true that the SUNY kids were very uncomfortable with calling me anything but doctor or professor. My sense of that was they felt it to be a mark of respect, but also that it raised their own status that they were dealing with doctors and professors. I might suspect that it had something to do with my colleagues at SUNY being hysterical about their status (which they were), but I also remember how reverently my grandparents spoke of "professors" -- and this was not from any pressure -- in Romania it seemed that academia constituted a kind of aristocracy.
Joanna