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> http://thenononsenseman.mensnewsdaily.com/
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> March 15th, 2008
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> Sex Lessons from Eliot Spitzer
> by Marc H. Rudov
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> The NoNonsense Bottom Line
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> A man who truly understands the power of the female
> libido pays nothing to get laid, ever. Eliot Spitzer,
> by purchasing sex, proved he doesn't understand the
> female libido and has low self-esteem. As a result, he
> destroyed a career, a family, and many friendships.
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> Eliot Spitzer humiliated himself at that news
> conference on March 12th, when he resigned as governor
> of New York. But, prior to that fateful day, Eliot
> Spitzer did something worse: he humiliated himself
> every time he paid for sex — and that is his lesson
> for every man.
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Mark Rudov shows how stupid men who think with their penis can be. He has stopped thinking with other portions of his anatomy and thus can only believe that Spitzer was paying for sex.
In fact sex is only one part of the bargain made between a prostitute and her client. The other part of the bargain is that the prostitute will go away after the time paid for is over and will not show up again until called.
Rudov is the kind of person who assumes that a person pays a therapist to be a friend or for conversation. A person pays a therapist to _not_ be your friend and _not_ be involved in crisscrossing sets interpersonal relationships that friendship and sex lives involve. Part of the bargain in good therapy is that the therapist does not get involved in the web of personal relationships and when the client leaves the therapist the therapist does not mettle. Of course sometimes such therapeutic relationships go side-ways and the therapist and the client do follow each other outside of the therapeutic office.
There is a similar motivation for many men and the few women who patronize prostitutes. They pay the prostitute not only for sex but for the ability to cut off the relationship at any point without emotional consequences. If Spitzer were to take the advice of dumb Rudov he would simply be in a more complicated sex scandal.... probably one that wouldn't have forced him to resign.
Our sexual hypocrisy is so thick that faux libertines such as Rudov can't even see that they are a part of it. The assumption Rudov is making is that "real men don't pay for sex" because they are big and powerful and can seduce (in this case "read" dominate for the word "seduce") the women they want.
But all of us, men and women alike, "pay" for sex in one way or another. Sex is the one thing that primates always bargain for and exchange even if the bargaining is for mutual affection.
Spitzer should be blamed as a hypocrite not as a person that likes to pay for sex.
As one of my best gals used to say:
"Legalize prostitution; Shoot the pimps."
Jerry