Women play by different rules than men, and this makes men feel uncomfortable and vulnerable in new ways. Clearly "the rule of the stronger" is not something that applies to their relationship with women....and so they have to understand forms of relating that are different than those that obtain with men. Playing by rules you don't altogether understand can be scary.
Women are also fairly astute observers and can, when provoked, abuse and wound men emotionally. This doesn't leave welts, but it's still violence.
Joanna
^^^^^ CB: What rules do women play by ?