> In terms of gender, charges of "egoism," "selfishness," etc. tend to
> get hurled at women who abort [and] women who don't take care of their
> children...
Not to mention women who work for a living ("it's all about your career!"), women who are overprotective ("all you care about is yourself!"), women who seek child care ("don't you care?"), women who don't ("you're trying to do everything!"), women who have children ("you just want someone to love you!") and women who don't ("stop thinking about yourself!"). Of course, this typically masculinist criticism, which is nothing less than compuslive and obsessive, is surely a displacement and a projection, isn't it?
double edged, ken