>right. so motherhood is judged according to an ideal. we might be hesitant
>to employ it, as todd is, because he recognizes something wrong with such
>judgments, tho he hasn't quite articulated it this way.
Here's a lovely book I've read over and over again about the historical contingency of such ideals: The Way We Never Were by Stephanie Coontz. It's a good charm in the face of the "family values" crowd.
Todd