Here Come The Sirens And The Flashing Red LIghts Of The Sex Police

[LeoCasey at aol.com]

Just when one thought we had seen the heights of moralizing hyperbole on 
this topic, we find new excess beyond all expectation. Each post rachets up 
the level of wilder and wilder accusations of sexual immorality, all based 
on rampant speculation about private, consensual sexual activity undertaken 
with full and reasonable expectations of privacy. Nothing will do but that 
Andrew Sullivan fucks in the way that Kelley decides is the right way to 
fuck, and should he deviate from the norm, pervert that he is, this becomes 
a sexist attack on women, notwithstanding the fact that it is between two 
gay men. Better yet, if he doesn't fuck in the politically correct manner, 
he is part of a cult glorifying the wrong way to fuck. Talk about sexual 
McCarthyism.

Heavens forbid that someone might take pleasure from the transgressive with 
respect to sex, that someone might step out of the socially or Kelley 
defined norms, that someone might want to have sex without a condom, in 
contexts where it puts no HIV- individual at risk. There are no exceptions 
to the rule on the right way to fuck.

News Flash, Kelley: gay sex, lesbian sex and straight sex are not the same 
things. They do not involve the same power relations, and acts within them 
do not carry the same symbolic dimensions. Even flirtation is quite a 
different phenomenon in those different contexts. To suggest that the fact 
that two HIV+ gay men who want to have sex without condoms without doing 
any harm to HIV- men seek each other out is somehow akin to a heterosexual 
man refusing to wear a condom at the request of his female sex partner is 
just plain ignorant. It is a heterosexual -- no, heterosexist -- projection 
onto gay life and culture. Get out of the sex cop car, and spend some time 
talking to -- not down at -- the people on the street.

Kelley:
>but no, sullivan's participation and encouragement of a cult that 
>glorifies unprotected sex as some sort of "natural" and "real" sex is 
>supposed to be justified. ahh. i see. right. we expend energy getting 
>people to see that penetration sex isn't necessarily the only "real" sex, 
>but gay men get to glorify penetration sex as the only "real" sex.

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