>What I'm starting to seriously wonder about is whether men, in
>general, do not feel guiltier about sex than women. I know this is
>an odd hypothesis -- because they are the ones who are out there: at
>the glory holes and they're the ones who go to prostitutes etc. But,
>this to me suggests the opposite of comfort. I mean, if I felt
>entitled to something that was good, why would I need to 1) pay for
>it and 2) make such a big point of having it publicly/anonymously,
>whatever ...
(1) Why pay? You can cook on your own, but you still go to restaurants sometimes.
(2) Public & anonymous are opposites of private & proper (as in proper names). If there is defiant emphasis upon the former in some circles, that's an understandably dialectical reaction against overemphasis upon the latter. Also, public & anonymous are marks of being urban & modern, in contrast to being rural & pre-modern.
Both (1) & (2) have gendered histories, to be sure.
Yoshie