Surrendered Wives

[Rob Schaap]

>The basic tenants of being a surrendered wife are that a wife:
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>Relinquishes inappropriate control of her husband.
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>Respects her husband's thinking.
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>Receives his gifts graciously and expresses gratitude for him.
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>Expresses what she wants without trying to control him.
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>Relies on him to handle household finances.
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>Focuses on her own self-care and fulfillment.
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>As a result of the changes, a surrendered wife is:
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>Vulnerable where she used to be a nag.
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>Trusting where she used to be controlling.
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>Respectful where she used to be demeaning.
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>Grateful where she used to be dissatisfied.
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>Has faith where she once had doubt.
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>Doyle said that the surrender in surrendered wife is not about submitting,
>but instead about surrendering control over your spouse.
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>http://dailynews.yahoo.com/h/kprc/20010505/lo/393521_1.html

Sounds for the most part (the finances bit is a bit dodgy) like a 'good
spouse', even a 'good friend', checklist.  The quest for control is pretty
well inimical to all human relations, no?  So, going on this list, I don't
think 'surrendered wife' is anything but a marketing ploy to feed on some
controversy.  To the degree that these 'self-improvement' things have any
efficacy at all, this lot seems pretty harmless - mebbe even a useful
check-list against which to monitor one's own role in one's relationships
occasionally.

Cheers,
Rob.