I knew that Alec had been in rehab and had an addiction but for some reason I thought it was alcohol. I did not read all of these posts from him -- missed the link to heroin. One thing I do know though, one person can not stop another from doing anything when it comes to drug addictions. My mother was an alcoholic and so I learned that the hard way. We can offer some comfort but in personal relationships it is very difficult to "be there" for someone who is dealing with addiction in the sense you mean. I am so sorry that Alec is gone and we can love him, but you could not have "saved" him. Marta -- Marta Russell Los Angeles, CA http://www.disweb.org