at a less extreme level, the feeling of closeness and intimacy some of us want and associate with falling in love is all about experiencing the anxiety of sharing a part of ourselves that we are afraid to share. When we do it with a person we're attracted to, we're full of all kinds of anxiety. we sit there wondering if you'll still be accepted. When you are, a rush of relief most of the time, and a sense of extreme closeness and emotional intimacy. If that's followed by a little more self-doubt, enough to cause a little tension, pearls over pumps.
i posted an excerpt about this in the past i believe.
kelley