Dangerous Smangerous

[Kelley]

also, this applies to men and women, if it wasn't clear. we just manifest 
the basic dynamic differently depending on our gender and sexual 
orientation. and some people have an issue with it, i'd say, mostly out of 
fear of loss/abandonement. counterintuitive, i know, but you might want to 
consult some feminist work on love and intimacy in some of those bookstores 
in SF. the stuff i mentioned is fifty years old and is taught in a basic 
sociology of family/marriage course as a standard theory of how people fall 
in love. i was forced to teach soc of family as a grad student. wasn't my 
thing but i made the best of it and went on to develop a course on the 
sociology of love. do yourself a favor joanna and read some of it. it's 
pretty eye opening and good for the soul. take it with a grain of salt, of 
course.

kelley