I do not mean to endorse being abrasive and driving people away, but this quote bears upon Doug's concern over "excessive politeness":
"Some people consider the style of argument prevalent in Cambridge, England, too rude, but it is aimed at getting points clear. I have suffered far more, especially in the USA, from politeness, being fobbed off with compliments just when I was hoping to clinch an argument."
-- Joan Robinson
________________________________________________________________ The best thing to hit the Internet in years - Juno SpeedBand! Surf the Web up to FIVE TIMES FASTER! Only $14.95/ month - visit www.juno.com to sign up today!