On Jan 8, 2007, at 7:52 PM, Carrol Cox wrote:
> Doug Henwood wrote:
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>> In one, the recipient of abuse asks for it, even craves it. In the
>> other, s/he doesn't. How could it be more different?
>
> Bad word choice. The word _abuse_ connotes non-consensual activity.
All right, bad word choice. So beat me!