> Question is what to you do when you fall in love with someone who needs
> a script? In my own case, I once fell in love with a man who was
> interested in bondage. I gave it a try and it was like watching paint
> dry. So, that was that. He was not exclusively interested in it, so it
> was not a problem, but if he had been, it would have been a problem.
That's a huge question that many couples deal with all the time. What do you do when your partner--who you like and love for many reasons--shows no interest in your sexual practices?
What do most couples do? I suspect that for many of them, these incompatabilities are a constant source of tension, frustration, resignation, anger, and unhappiness. For others, there may be agreement that each partner plays along with the other person's interests, even if they don't get turned on by them. This would be described as a typical compromise that are part of healthy marriages, partnerships and relationships.
For me, at my age, hooking up with somebody who shares my interests or who can play along is really important. I'm not interested in wasting my time with anybody--no matter how wonderful they are out of the bedroom--who would view my interests with disdain, disgust, hostility or indifference. I certainly wouldn't want to act the same way towards my partner's interests and I know their are certain sexual practices which repulse me. So I think that it is important for people to be honest about their sexual interests, pursue them, and be tolerant and open-minded about the interests of your partner.
Chuck