When I was a kid, I left home and lived with a German family. My own family had scattered across the country to find work b/c of a severe economic crisis: plant shutdowns, etc. (I got laid off due to shutdowns three times within my first year of full time employment at age 17-18)
I would come home from my waitress job and tell H, the father, about my day: the crappy customer treatment, etc. He was a carpenter and he'd tell me about how his sister in Germany was a waitress all her life because it was perfectly acceptable as a career.
Is that still the case in Germany?
My sister is a lifelong waitress, pretty much, although she's got a degree in education. I think she's trying to get work at a local vocational training school which also caters to the disabled, but hasn't had luck yet. She's not a waitress/bartender by choice, IOW.
I had to laugh, when I first started working here, I happened to pull out a few tricks one learns as a waitress./bartender. It was during our regular potlucks. The response? Wow? Did you learn that in school or something? They assumed that the only way I could have known how to make a proper display of cocktail napkins was in restaurant management school or something. LOL Admittedly, this was from a person from a rather upper middle class family as were the people who assumed as much as well.