polygamy

Kelley kwalker2 at gte.net
Mon Feb 11 06:46:16 PST 2002


At 04:29 PM 2/11/02 +0200, Hakki Alacakaptan wrote:
> Do you think it's possible to have soul-sharing
>sex like Joanna describes under the ego-bruising stare of a judgemental,
>exacting partner?

well, i wouldn't sleep with the asshole. :) might fuck 'im though. Ha!

butt, seriously, i was physically and emotionally battered by a woman lover (when i was a kid), and i've seen plenty of the same sort of violence among lesbians, etc since then. abusive relationships are fairly common among lesbians, because it's about power relations between two people.

the notion that women wouldn't engage in abusive or hurtful behavior because of some mysteriously naturalized sexuality is a real problem, if you ask me.

i'm not buying whatever joanna was on about.


>If you're into S/M, maybe. Otherwise, if things have
>gotten to the point where demands are made of and excuses contrived for
>sexual behavior, fughedaboudit, just move on.
>
>Hakki

i'm talking about discourses that naturalize sexuality, discourses in medicine, etc., that we already know have tended to legitimate and reproduce patriarchal relations. e.g, the moron sociobiologists who claimed that rape is natural. the whole Mars/Venus blahfuckedtyblah that has infiltrated popular culture.. these based on naturalized claims about gender. e.g., men like to do things to prove they're a man because it stems from the daze back when our knuckles dragged nearer the ground.

so, when you or anyone else trots this material out, maybe we should be suspicious of the research.

i agree with what you were saying, the end result of it. i just don't think it's a good idea to attribute these differences to nature, without a serious look at the research.

feh.



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