good old meritocratic individualism. your happiness or lack thereof is due to you and your own actions and no one else's. if you're unhappy with your job, get another one. if you're overworked, don't say yes to overtime from now on. if you're unhappy with your spouse or partner, get another one. leave. whatever. don't, above all, stop and think about the possibility that there might be something else going on. if you're not great, thomas, you're just a big failure. so, butch up and quitchyer bitchin'.
kelley