>Touch yourself and you'll know I exist
>http://blog.pulpculture.org/2005/12/05/touch-yourself/
Where you say: "and fucking sexiness or whatever Ariel Levy wants to use to uphold her own little Madonna/Whore complex."
That's not really fair to her, though I'll concede she's not always clear about her underlying argument. But it is some variation on a critique of the American binary of purtitanism and prurience - the country that brought you abstinence education also has one of the highest rates of teen pregnancy in the world, and the country that brought you Donald Wildmon also brought you Girls Gone Wild. So she's actually doing a critique of the Madonna/Whore complex.
Doug