> Relationship experts say professional men prefer to marry women "like their
> mum" who will provide the domestic support while they go out to work.
>
> Women achievers, however, find it difficult to find men willing to
> sacrifice their careers to become house husbands.
This seems to be saying that one person in the relationship should be willing to make maintaining the relationship their highest priority while the other is free to pursue other goals and let the burden of sustaining the relationship fall on that other in order to increase the odds that the partnership will be successful. If both partners pursue goals outside the relationship equally the relationship is less likely to be maintained. It suggests women are having a harder time finding men willing to do this.
> Dr Paul Brown, visiting professor of psychology at Nottingham Law School
> and an expert on relationships, said: "What we are finding is that women in
> their late 30s who have gone for careers after the first flush of
> university and who are among the brightest of their generation are finding
> that men are just not interesting enough.
This seems to me to suggest that finding men willing to make relationship maintenance their highest priority is not the difficult part after all but rather that women are unhappy with men who are willing to fulfill that role. This suggests women desire what is highly unlikely to succeed; a motivated male achiever who will subsume his desire to succeed ourside the relationship in order to maintain that relationship but that men prefer what is significantly more likely to succeed; to pursue their careers and let the other partner be primarily responsible for relationship maintenance and so choose their mate accordingly.
This suggests that the strategy of house-wife will be met with success more often than the strategy of house-husband. This should also make the strategy of house-husband increasing unlikely for men to choose. Am I reading this correctly or am I missing something important.
John Thornton
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