[WS:] That is pretty much what Graeber argued - that women were the mere currency in the honor accounting - Lord A would humiliate Lord B by turning B's women into chattel.
For a peasant it was a different story - as you say. But people who beat, humiliate and kill women today to defend "tradition" are mostly of peasant rather than aristocratic stock.
But again, the main point here is not who the victim is, but that male honor is contingent on the ability to humiliate others (whoever they are). No humiliation, no honor.
-- Wojtek
"An anarchist is a neoliberal without money."